It's not just about the racing!
by timPDec 22nd 2014
This blog has been a long time coming, too long because to be honest I haven't known how to start!
I wanted to be able to write about all the wonderful races we had completed.
I wanted to tell you how proud I was of Debbie completing her series of personal challenges in memory of her Mum and Dad.
Instead, on July 17th 2014, everything changed in the blink of an eye. Our Nephew Ben was a passenger on Malaysian Airlines flight MH17.
We got the news whilst sitting in a bar helping a colleague celebrate his retirement. For some reason I got my phone out of my pocket and there on the screen was a message "Tim, have you seen the news Ben's plane has been shot down"
In that instant we had an awful sinking feeling in the pit of our stomachs, a quick look at the BBC news feed confirmed the extent of the devastation and the immediate realisation that there wouldn't be any survivors.
Training and racing suddenly wasn't important at all.
Getting upset over missing a training session, or a slightly below par race performance really didn't mean very much, in fact on reflection nothing at all.
The things that had only that morning been so reassuringly important in our lives were relegated to their rightful insignificance.
The five months since July have been a rollercoaster of emotions for the entire family, even now, writing this I still can't really come to terms with what has happened. How Ben's parents and younger Sister have managed to remain so dignified whilst their world collapsed around them is a huge credit to them.
Unfortunately the truth about what really happened to the flight is likely to take many months or years of painstaking investigation to establish, prolonging the heartache for all those involved.
During these past months family and friends have been a tremendous source of support for us. This is very true of our friends in the triathlon and general sporting community showing that sport is important after all, not necessarily for the results achieved but for the friendships made and nurtured.
Sport played a huge part in Ben's life, Cricket, Badminton, Skiing and more recently Ultimate Frisbee. The link to friendship was evident in the 100 plus team mates past and present that attended his funeral.
For us, the best way to honour Ben's memory is to make the most of the opportunities presented to us, whatever they may be.
Sport will undoubtedly play a big part in those opportunities so look out for Team Pocock in 2015 at an event near you, racing, supporting, helping but most importantly making friends.
This is how we want to remember Ben, always smiling
A lovely picture of the three of us at Ben's high school prom.
My next race